Winning this WAR starts with YOU!

Happy New Year!!!

We made it to see another year and for that we have something to be grateful for! I have been trying to share a blog post for the past 3 weeks since Christmas and somehow, I would always get interrupted or distracted by a phone call , family or another task in true Adult ADHD fashion.  You know the type of moves that we all refer to as “ multi-tasking”.  I would like to believe I am not the only one who can relate to starting and stopping that comes along with completing a task when distracted. (This is a safe space)

As I went through this cycle while doing all of my end of the year cleaning and closing loops, I realized that regimen sort of resembled what happened to many of us during the year of 2025. Life began to happen, things began to shift, and priorities shifted right along with it. What you once after came to a complete stop because life demanded it or because you got distracted by the things that were happening around you that may not have directly affected you, but it affected you. One thing I can think of is 1600 Pennsylvania Avenue …...another is the 300,000 Women who became unemployed in a 6-month period and the dismantling of Diversity Equity Inclusion at every turn …… People won but many People loss and it affected each of you reading no matter the gender mentally , spiritually and in some cases physically more than we were able to find language for.  It seemed to be an ongoing theme that started November of 2024 and if we can take a moment and be honest, we are still in the FIGHT today.

With that said how you FIGHT in 2026 is going to be the key to you winning the WAR.

The WAR you speak of regularly and the WAR you don’t!

The WAR with yourself and the WAR with others around you!

This year it is going to take some personal changes in your daily regimen to get you through.

Long gone are the days of doing things as usual. I have said it before and I will say it again , Doing the same things over and over again expecting a different result is the definition of INSANITY. So, if you are losing your mind on Day 9 of January 2026 due to some of the rollover things from 2025 its time for you to make a CHANGE in how you live , how you think and how you MOVE.

Distractions can no longer keep you in a chokehold.

Procrastination and Overthinking can no longer be your story.

It’s time to ELIMINATE the NOISE once and for all and do exactly what you know you were called to do and be who you were called to be.

What if I told you , your social media algorithm is keeping you in personal bondage and away from your dreams?

What if I told you , that comparison has been stealing your JOY because you rather scroll and look at people doing what they do instead of looking in the mirror encouraging yourself to do what you need to do?

What if I told you that you are one encounter a way from a changed life , a more purpose driven one, but you are too concerned with the opinions of others that you are missing the connection points….

Your no new friend’s mentality is keeping you surrounded by more enablers than accountability….

Your desire to be the smartest in the room is keeping you at a ceiling that is below your IQ and sharing your dreams and aspirations with people who live in fear is holding you hostage. 

I am saying all of this to say that 2026 will look just like every other year if you don’t get out your own way and push through every distraction in order to win this war!

Where should I start? ( I am glad you asked 😊)

Protect your Ears: Re-evaluate what you listen to and who you listen to! Be it via streaming or some of the phone calls you take on a daily basis. If it’s not positive or pushing you to be the best version of YOU it has to go! If it is negative or extremely JUDGEMENTAL conversation , IT HAS to GO. 

Protect your Eyes: Declutter your social media pages and erase the pictures– Block/Unfollow and remove things that are not good for your nervous system. If it makes you feel less than rather than inspired, it has to GO. ( Honestly , logging off a few days per week helps as well, FAST from it until you see change in real life and not just ONLINE)

Watch your mouth: I said this a few entries ago , you are speaking so much negatively over yourself by speaking words over your life that are not true. Even in your weakness you are strong , stop saying “ I Can’t do this” , “ I am NOT enough” , Stop focusing on the hurt , rejection or pain and push yourself to see the good in what is going well for you.  And even in the moments that you can’t see the good around you , remind yourself of the good in YOU!

I’ll stop here for now, but please hear me when I say “Winning the War starts with you!!

If it promotes FEAR more than FAITH it has to GO, change your regimen and start your day with a healthy and grateful heart and mind; you have what it takes to be successful.

All of your ideas and desires are a few steps away don’t let this world or people hardened your heart or hold you captive in 2026!!!

Go BE GREAT because you ARE!

Have an amazing weekend!

Till next time,

Rochonda Rene’