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Happy International Women’s Day to all the ladies and to the leading ladies, girl bosses, wives, sisters, daughters and more of the men reading this week’s entry. It’s a beautiful day to celebrate great women!! Family, I am in the middle of a total wellness rehaul …. Like a season of rebooting, resetting, and realigning myself with the things that bring me joy and remind me of the art of living. Last week I was caught up in it and I had not a minute to share. But here we are on a Monday just you and me ready for what the day and the week has to offer up!

As I started my day this morning, I found myself jumping from prayer directly to social media to do my Monday post. I have about 3 or 4 post in drafts ready for release over next few days and plenty of others in my head. If I can be totally honest with you, it bothers me that this is how life is when running a business or building a brand. It bothers me that an “Algorithm” has so much control over what others think and how they engage with you or your business. This my friend’s is why I have such a love-hate relationship with social media and it typically burns my grits. I had the craziest thing happen recently, an old friend called me to catch up and during the conversation we began chatting and This friend proceeded to ask weird questions about my life and was really talking to me in " social-media" chatter and concluded with “I never see you post about a significant other and you haven’t been out of town in a minute huh are you ok? “I was completely confused (BTW, I was out of town during the call) considering there is no way that social media could even begin to digest every waking moment of my extremely unique, complex yet BLESSED life and neither do I want it to. It was in this moment that it hit me, People’s Perceptions about your life’s work and decisions have been diminished to a POST and it is quite disheartening. It’s disheartening because people are not only sizing you up based on what you do or do not post but essentially measuring their very own success and failures against the highlight reel from the life of others. It must stop. Privacy is sill necessary! There are some parts of you and your life that other people just do NOT need to see and there are also parts of you that can’t handle what you SEE posted by others.

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This conversation triggered me and made me laugh all at the same time because it further confirmed why I don’t share a lot of my personal life on my feed as often as the past. I shifted to a more curated content geared towards inspiring the masses and keeping folks abreast to the access and resources available to them because that’s what I want to offer the world, freedom and healing. See for some it has become the reality TV of your day forgetting that you are living in a real world with people with real problems and real-life happenings behind the scenes, but you have consumed yourself with so much of the pretty stuff that you forget there is MORE than your eyes can see in a POST. PSA- Just because it’s not POSTED does not mean IT is not HAPPENING. You must get to a point where you ask yourself why am I here? What am I looking for? Why am I posting this? Who is it for? What does it mean? You cannot say you are Intentional and post every 5 minutes of your day with no intention? And then get mad when someone is asking questions about something PRIVATE that you made PUBLIC.

My chief aim today as we start this week is to challenge you and the friends you will share this with to not allow social media to make decisions for you. Don’t allow it to cause you to “think you know” something that you have no details about without asking. Don’t allow it to rush you into a marriage or a toxic relationship just so you can have someone to dress alike on holidays and special occasions and don’t allow it to confuse you about your dreams and aspirations. Just because it worked for them does NOT mean that same business model or style will work for you. I see so many people becoming what they SEE rather than becoming who they are SUPPOSED to BE. Stay true to what GOD told you, to what you know for yourself not what you have visually seen look good on someone else. That ain’t your lane!

I could go on, but I won’t …. I just want everyone to be great and the most unapologetic, unbothered, healed, and whole versions of ourselves possible. It remains a marathon not a sprint! Do what you want love, love what you do and who you want cause …. That’s your business!

Be Blessed week!!

Love,

RR- xoxo